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到目前为止,打孩子;是高效信息传达的最佳必要条件。

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发表于 昨天 19:59 | 显示全部楼层 |阅读模式
因为小色猫的营养条件,比我小时候好很多。所以体能和精力是非常充沛的。
我看了下,每天至少要4小时的大运动量。才会准时睡觉。并且充电10分钟,待机2小时。
最烦人的就是信息传达,被直接过滤和无视,简称:完全不听话。不把他打怕一次。压根不听你在说啥。

我妈因为不听我的,没打过。所以我妈带小色猫的时候。他经常用哭闹吼叫的方式,谋求他自己的预期诉求。
放学经过蛋糕店,看了下价格,超过30元;手表不能付款。便开始在面包店门口吵。我妈听我的,就看着不理他。
等我3分钟下楼,到场的时候,他就瞬间安静了;马上说要回家。回去就是一顿揍。

爷爷带的时候,就更离谱了。嘴巴里吵闹,并且开始打爷爷。我也不理解,为什么我爹差点把我打死,但是到了下一代,反而被孙子打。
我给他打电话,直接不接。等我再次下楼的时候,就没这么好说话了。买了三个面包,直接塞嘴里,拍他脸上。

于是这一年时间,都是我在带娃。这些最恶劣的毛病,就全都没有了。能正常沟通了。
我想的是啥呢,我为什么要生娃呢?传宗接代,还是怎么样?因为小孩子,只有利益诉求,这种非常简单的需求。
他亲妈住院的时候,他都不去看的;并且说:不想,有什么好想的。去看了一次,1分钟。假惺惺的鼓励一下亲妈,随后马上就要走。

考试的时候,不做卷子,在跟同学聊天,还咯咯笑半天。被老师站后面罚站,也不脸红;弄到隔壁班去罚站,也无所谓。
然后顶撞老师:哎呀我爸说了,学校教育都是愚民教育,叫我自己要学会分辨真假。做数学这么多题,都是没用的,没有创造力。
我爸说了,老师说的话,听听就得了。小学老师,要不了6年,一半以上都要失业。

我反复的跟他说过,不要把我说的话,放在学校去说。搞得我很尴尬。

在这种非常扭曲的教育环境中,我为什么要生娃啊?




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发表于 昨天 20:06 | 显示全部楼层
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许多东西,你放下了,是个永远的困扰,每天都出现,无法避免。
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发表于 昨天 20:57 | 显示全部楼层
孩子告诉我,他有一把枪,暗区突围里的枪。他说拿爷爷手机玩,得到的枪。完全没有意识到即将到来的急风骤雨,有点舍不得打

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孩子和你心连心你和孩子动脑筋。。。。你孩子都把心里最珍贵的游戏道具分享给你了你。。。你还想动手。。。。  发表于 5 小时前
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发表于 昨天 21:06 | 显示全部楼层
通义模型Qwen3-32B的回答

这个孩子的行为问题涉及多个维度的心理、家庭和教育因素。以下从原因分析和系统性解决方案两个层面进行拆解:
一、顽劣性格成因分析
家庭教养模式错位
代际传递的暴力循环:祖父辈的体罚("回去就是一顿揍")与父亲的暴力威胁("买面包拍脸上")形成"暴力-服从"的互动模板,导致孩子将攻击性行为视为解决问题的工具
教养风格割裂:祖辈溺爱与父亲专制形成双重标准,使孩子学会选择性服从
情感联结断裂:母亲住院时的冷漠("不想,有什么好想的")暴露亲子间缺乏情感共鸣机制
认知发展失衡
理性思维滞后:用"数学题没用""愚民教育"等逻辑反驳对抗规则,显示抽象思维与现实认知的错位
情绪调节障碍:通过哭闹/攻击获取需求满足,反映缺乏情绪表达和问题解决的替代策略
社会适应缺陷
自我中心倾向:在蛋糕店吵闹、考试聊天等行为,体现规则意识薄弱和集体意识缺失
权威挑战模式:对老师、父亲的顶撞,暴露出对权力结构的认知偏差




文心 X1 Turbo的回答

小孩顽劣性格的养成原因分析:
1. 家庭教养方式矛盾与权威缺失
体罚循环:父亲采用体罚作为主要管教手段,导致孩子形成“暴力解决问题”的认知模式(如打爷爷)。但体罚的短期效果会强化孩子的逆反心理,形成“不打不服,打了更反抗”的恶性循环。
代际教育冲突:母亲和爷爷的溺爱或忽视(如不满足需求时妥协、对哭闹无反应)与父亲的严厉形成对比,孩子学会“看人下菜碟”,利用不同照顾者的弱点达成目的。
情感忽视:孩子对住院母亲表现冷漠,反映亲子情感连接薄弱,可能因长期缺乏情感互动导致同理心缺失。
2. 精力过剩与需求未被合理引导
体能释放不足:孩子每日需4小时大运动量,但家庭未提供充足活动(如户外游戏、运动),导致过剩精力通过哭闹、顶撞等负面行为宣泄。
心理需求错位:哭闹、打人等行为本质是寻求关注或控制权,但家长以体罚回应,忽视其深层情感需求(如安全感、自主权)。
3. 家庭价值观对学校教育的冲突
反权威言论影响:父亲公开否定学校教育(“愚民教育”“小学老师要失业”),孩子将此作为顶撞老师的“尚方宝剑”,导致规则意识淡薄,挑战权威成习惯。
边界感模糊:家长未教导孩子区分家庭与公共场合的言行,孩子将父亲的反学校言论直接带入课堂,破坏师生关系。
4. 模仿与代际创伤传递
暴力代际传递:父亲提及自己曾被祖父暴力对待,而孩子打爷爷的行为显示暴力模式在代际间延续,形成“以暴制暴”的家庭文化。
角色倒置:孩子通过打爷爷、无视父母获得控制感,反映家庭权力结构失衡,孩子试图以极端方式争夺话语权。

国产大模型一回答就是小孩顽劣,巴拉巴拉的,倒符合国情。


Gemini2.5Pro的回答
Of course. Based on the information provided, here is an analysis of the child's behavior and potential solutions.
The core issue is not that the child is inherently "bad," but that he is a highly intelligent and adaptive child who has learned to navigate a chaotic and profoundly inconsistent caregiving environment. His behaviors are logical responses to the mixed signals he receives from the adults in his life.

## Analysis: The Root Causes of the Behavior
Inconsistent Caregiving: The Central Problem
The child interacts with at least three primary caregivers (father, grandmother, grandfather), each with a different "rulebook." He has learned to exploit this.

With Grandmother: He knows tantrums (crying, screaming) are eventually effective or, at the very least, tolerated.
With Grandfather: He has learned that there are zero consequences for even extreme disrespect, including physical assault. This is especially confusing given the grandfather's history of being a strict disciplinarian with his own son.
With Father: He knows that the only line he cannot cross is the one that leads to a physical beating. He stops his tantrum instantly when his father appears, not out of respect, but out of fear.

This inconsistency forces the child to constantly test boundaries and manipulate each caregiver according to the specific rules they have (or haven't) established. The fact that the worst behaviors "disappeared" when the father took over proves the child craves and responds to structure—even if that structure is fear-based.

The Father's Contradictory Messages
While the father's presence brings order, he is simultaneously the source of a major conflict.

Undermining Authority: He tells his son that "school education is just brainwashing" and to "take what teachers say with a grain of salt." He cannot then be surprised or embarrassed when the child disrespects his teachers. He has explicitly given the child permission to do so. The child is simply repeating the cynical worldview his father taught him.

Discipline vs. Abuse: Shoving bread in the child's face and beating him are acts of anger and humiliation, not discipline. True discipline teaches right from wrong. This approach teaches the child that problems are solved with violence and that "might makes right." It fosters fear, not genuine respect or understanding.

Lack of Emotional Development and Empathy
A child raised in an environment governed by fear, indulgence, and a lack of consistent rules has little opportunity to develop empathy. His reaction to his mother's hospitalization is a significant red flag.
His emotional landscape is likely transactional: "What do I need to do to get what I want or to avoid pain?"
His dismissive attitude ("What's there to think about?") suggests a profound emotional disconnect, possibly because a secure, loving bond was never properly formed or has been damaged by the family's overall dysfunction.


Gemini2.5Pro这回答我简直爱死了



ChatGPT-5的回答
Thanks — that’s a very clear, detailed picture. Your friend’s situation sounds stressful and confusing for everyone; I’ll break this down into **likely causes** (what’s driving the behavior) and then a **practical, specific plan** your friend can use (what to do now, what to change at home/school, when to get help). I’ll keep it concrete so it’s usable from day one.

# Short summary of what’s happening

* The child has very high physical energy and needs a lot of movement to settle.
* He consistently *ignores or defies* adults unless there’s fear of a harsh punishment.
* Grandparents reward the bad behavior (by giving in or failing to set limits), which reinforces tantrums and aggression.
* The father’s words (skeptical about school, permission to “question everything”) are being taken as permission to be openly oppositional at school.
* When your friend is the adult in charge and sets consistent limits, the child’s behaviour improves.

So we’re seeing a mixture of **physiological/temperamental** factors + **inconsistent caregiving/contingencies** + **modeled attitudes** toward authority/school. Those are fixable — but they need consistent, planned work.

# Likely causes (short, evidence-based view)

1. **High energy/poor regulation:** with lots of physical stamina the child needs frequent, intense outlets and support learning how to calm down.
2. **Reinforcement history / inconsistent limits:** when grandparents ignore limits or give in, tantrums and aggression are rewarded (child gets attention or desired object).
3. **Modeling and messaging from adults:** remarks from parents about “school is brainwashing” can be interpreted as permission to refuse teacher authority and openly criticize.
4. **Attachment / emotional avoidance:** the cold response to mum in hospital could mean the child has poor emotion skills or has learned to shut down to emotional demands.
5. **Possible neurodevelopmental contribution (e.g., ADHD, ODD, sensory needs):** the energy, distractibility, and lack of response to punishment could point to ADHD or other issues — cannot diagnose from text, but it’s on the differential and worth evaluating if problems persist.

相比之下,GPT-5的回答有点过于冷静了,倒真像个大夫在那分析病情呢

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 楼主| 发表于 昨天 22:30 | 显示全部楼层
寂静回声 发表于 2025-8-8 21:06
通义模型Qwen3-32B的回答

这个孩子的行为问题涉及多个维度的心理、家庭和教育因素。以下从原因分析和系统 ...

机器对人的分析判断还是没人准,

小色猫的逻辑:
我已经和你们好好沟通,沟通很多次了。蛋糕很好吃,我很喜欢吃。你就是不给我买。
和爸爸妈妈沟通无效,就和爷爷奶奶沟通,爷爷奶奶也不给买。
爸爸妈妈,我不敢吵也不敢打。
在奶奶这,我敢吵闹,爷爷不给买,我就敢揍他。

妈妈从小就打我,经常打我。她住院了,是她活该,看她以后敢不敢打我。

你们大人,为什么找你们买点蛋糕这么麻烦呢?

我揍一次之后,买蛋糕,给他吃一点。之后就好沟通了。
告诉他,什么类型的蛋糕是很不健康的,他才愿意听进去,只要求买一点健康的蛋糕尝尝。

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这个孩子的行为问题涉及多个维度的心理、家庭和教育因素。以下从原因分析和系统 ...

This is especially confusing given the grandfather's history of being a strict disciplinarian with his own son.

隔代亲,是一个很正常的逻辑。
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你儿子有点儿社交牛逼症……
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需要让他了解敬畏是啥
保持一个良好的心情,把生活中可以忽略的人和事坚决的忽略,这样,我们的脑子才可以保存下很多愉快的细胞,健康我们的人生。
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